First and foremost, I fully, completely believe that every single person is absolutely beautiful and radiant and stunning just by being their true selves. There shouldn’t be an “ideal beauty” because every one of every size and shape and color is all uniquely wonderful exactly as they are.
However, I think there is a difference between knowing everyone is beautiful and actually feeling beautiful.
In an ideal world, we’d all accept ourselves fully as we are. However, having the human experience, and just having a society obsessed with unrealistic beauty standards, sometimes it’s hard to see ourselves as beautiful. Sometimes it’s hard to see completely normal things as normal things instead of flaws.
It’s funny because most of the time if we saw another woman, whether a best friend or a stranger, complain about some part of their appearance we’d instantly say, “girl, you’re gorgeous!” And genuinely mean it… but sometimes it’s hard to say that about ourselves because we’ve been trained to think differently.
For the longest time, especially as a pre-teen and teenager, I didn’t feel beautiful. I fully supported and acknowledged that everyone had beauty, but I couldn’t see it or feel it in myself.
Honestly, it really wasn’t until my mid-twenties that I finally overcame my self-doubt, and finally felt confident around my specific beauty. (Definitely no coincidence this came after diving deeper into my spiritual studies)
My friends will tell you I had a huge glow up after college. Some might think it was a combo of just growing up, adopting a skincare routine, and learning to style myself in a way that felt good to me and complimented me, and while yes, that may be true, but I know majority of my glow-up was my mindset shift and because I did the inner work to fully accept myself as beautiful.
Because once we can train ourselves to believe it, we manifest it. What vibrations radiate within, are always the ones that radiate without and those are the ones that other people pick up on and see.
I think everyone deserves to feel beautiful and see themselves as beautiful… and like anything, it truly is possible for you to manifest it!
So here’s my top four tips for manifesting that confidence and beauty you want!
#1 - Watch the words you speak and think
I remember learning this so vividly from the older women in my psychic development class. They were all about 20 years older than me and a few of them were saying how they were unhappy with their current bodies. They looked back to younger pictures of themselves and realized that back then they were always complaining about their bodies, but in truth now they can see their bodies back then weren’t anything to complain about - but because they were constantly saying negative things about it, their bodies changed; they had manifested their unideal bodies as their truth & now wished they had their former bodies.
Now of course I'd like to point out that every body no matter what size or weight is still gorgeous and stunning. Every body is built differently too so we're not all going to show weight the same way. However, in this scenario I'm referring to the fact that these women felt uncomfortable with their current bodies - and I think that's okay to acknowledge! It's okay to know that your body with more or less weight is still a fantastic body and still beautiful, but at the same time it's okay to want to adjust it to where you personally feel comfortable and feel your personal best. We can love who we are and still want to be a work in progress. We can also love who we are and be okay with staying the same. It’s all a personal preference & so long as you’re sending yourself love, you’re doing great.
This lesson really stuck with me because I wanted to always feel comfortable in my body. From then on I stopped saying anything bad or negative or mean about my body, my face, or any part of me. Whenever I wanted to complain about things like oily skin or dry hair or extra pounds in places that I personally didn't feel comfortable with, I stopped and remembered that the more I complain, the more I’ll cement it as my truth. So, every time I wanted to say something bad, I’d take a breath, then I’d repeat the opposite. I’d say my skin looked beautiful and radiant, my hair looked fantastic, I felt so comfortable with my weight.
I removed words like “ugly” and “fat” from my vocabulary. I fully embraced every part of me. I truly dedicated myself to erasing negative self-talk from my mind and every single time I’d replace it with beautiful compliments. The more I did this, the more it just became natural. The more my brain got trained to naturally default to compliments and to saying positive things about myself.
Not only did I start to feel better about myself, but I noticed that my skin and hair looked better, that my body seemed to stay within the weight I’m personally comfortable at. Sure, I’d have a pimple or bad hair day every once in a while because that’s just being a human, but I had trained myself to see that even in those moments I was still beautiful - I was beautiful with pimples and with oily skin and dry hair because I was 100% me. I was always going to be beautiful and I chose to continue to affirm and see myself as such.
#2- Work with Spirit like Archangel Jophiel
You know I love working with spirit, specifically the archangels. So when I learned that there was an Archangel of Beauty, you bet I called upon her a lot.
Archangel Jophiel has a bright pink aura so when working her, it's great to imagine yourself surrounded in that bright pink light.
So to work with her, the first thing you need to do, is to remove any guilt around the fact that asking for beauty is a waste.
The Archangels don’t care what you ask for help with. No problem is too trivial or small for them. They’re not going to judge you for asking to look beautiful on the day of a first date because you should be saving your asks for more important things like helping cure world hunger. No.
Angels know that to humans, there’s such a full spectrum of problems, and they are absolutely happy to help you with anything to make your life a little bit easier, and they mean anything. They also work with everyone regardless of your religious beliefs.
So, don’t be afraid to call upon Archangel Jophiel and ask her for help with beauty!
Honestly, she’s been one of my go-to’s for a while. I’ve been asking her for help whenever I’ve wanted a confidence boost, whenever I wanted to find a great outfit, or whenever I wanted my makeup to come out good.
All you have to do is call upon her (doesn’t have to be in meditation either, it can just be in your head as you’re going about your day). Say her name, imagine her bright pink aura surrounding you, and ask her precisely for whatever you need.
You can ask her to help you look good in a photo, help you have a radiant glow when you have an important meeting, help you look sexy for a date, help you have great hair just for the sake of it, help you look extra gorgeous for your wedding day - whatever it is, Jophiel is more than happy to help! Just ask, thank her, and know it’s taken care of.
While I like working with Archangel Jophiel, There’s a few other beauty Goddesses you can ask for help - like Lakshmi (Hindu) and Aprohdite (Greek).
Ask these ladies for the confidence to feel beautiful and shine brightly inside and out!
#3- Find a way to style yourself that feels good to you, but also appreciate you just as you are!
Like I said earlier, along with my mindset I did find new ways to style myself (fashion-wise, hair-wise, and make-up wise) that enhanced my natural beauty and made me feel great and empowered.
For example, I learned that I love the way winged eye-liner makes my eyes stand out. I love the way my hair looks when I use a curling wand. I love how pretty and flowy maxi dresses feel on me. All these things combined helped me feel confident within so that could translate to the outside.
So, look to social media for inspiration (in a positive non-comparing way). Look to some different fashion and makeup influencers, find a style that feels good to you. Watch YouTube hair tutorials. Try some looks out and don’t be afraid to wear them!
I had a friend once tell me she loved how I could pull off red lipstick and didn’t think she could - and I was like of course you can!
Honestly every one can pull off any look, it’s just a matter of the confidence you have with it!
The only difference between you and that girl wearing that cute purple hat or those sleek knee-high boots is that she believes she can pull them off!
Wear whatever you think is cute and know no matter what it is, you can pull it off with the right confidence! And you can get that confidence by affirming it, telling yourself you can, and giving yourself the proper chance to try it out.
Get yourself a fresh haircut, buy yourself a cute dress, or a new lipstick (or whatever forms of clothes or makeup that feel good to you!)
Just the same, while style can absolutely be a huge factor in empowering you to feel your best, try to simultaneously find the beauty in the sans-makeup, sans-style version of you.
For me personally, this was the longest aspect that came together for me. I had a while where I felt gorgeous with makeup and cute clothes, but I did not feel beautiful when I was bare-face in pajamas and a messy braid.
Honestly, the pandemic actually really helped me to appreciate my face without makeup.
I was definitely insecure without it, but actually not wearing makeup everyday forced me to go back to my early “I am beautiful” affirmations when I’d look in the mirror. I tried everyday to say something nice about my makeup-less face and it really did help me see myself naturally as beautiful and gain confidence in my true self.
So, while yes you definitely want to find styles that enhance your natural beauty, don’t forget to show your natural-self love on a daily basis too because both sides of you are gorgeous.
#4- Do self-love exercises daily!
Keep your self-love practice consistent! The best way to radiate beauty is to envelope yourself with believing you are beauty.
When you look in the mirror everyday, say something nice about yourself. State some “I am beautiful. I am cute. I am pretty. I am gorgeous. I am sexy.”
Go through your body and thank every single part of it, from your toes to the tip of your head, for all it does to support you and keep you alive.
Write yourself a love letter or daily love notes! Show your body kindness and respect.
Ask yourself: If I was my most confident version of me, how would I treat myself? How would I act in general? What kind of words would I say about myself? What kind of thoughts would I have? How would I style myself? How would I feel?
When you can answer those, then embody that version of you!
Remember, confidence is a state of mind. It may take a while, but little by little, you can get there. The key is to stick with it consistently. Reminding yourself how fabulous you are may feel weird at first, but the more you do it, the more it’ll feel like second nature.
Then, when you feel beautiful I can guarantee others will start noticing it too. We don’t do it for the compliments or other people obviously, we want to feel beautiful for ourselves, but when others notice it’s proof that your vibes of beauty are radiating so strongly that others can’t help but energetically pick up on it! And maybe it’ll inspire them to want to be confident just like you!
Hope these helped you! <3
