I honestly think one of the absolute hardest things to get over and to not take so personally is rejection. Some of us are alright, maybe even great, at handling it, but I know for myself personally, it used to be such a crushing blow that would really knock my confidence and make me doubt myself.
Rejection in all areas of our lives can really hurt - whether its romantic rejection, job rejections, friend rejections, social media unfollows, or even rejections from places you submitted your artistic work to - it all can be super painful. And the reason it’s painful is because we take it to mean: “we’re not good enough” “we’re not wanted” “we’re not lovable or even likable” “we’re not pretty enough” “we’re not talented enough” “we’re not skilled enough” which all just boils down to us not feeling like a worthy human being.
For me, if I got rejected from anything I would dwell on it so much. It would consume my energy but because remember where our focus goes, *grows*, thats exactly what would manifest, and I’d receive more rejections.
With things like job interviews or dates, if we keep getting rejected we then start to expect to be rejected and we expect it to just not work out before it even begins. This becomes such a catch-22 as we get rejected because we expected it and then because it happened we keep expecting it, so we just project more vibes of receiving rejection and thus the universe answers our vibes and we get rejected.
Which can be super maddening, of course. But I’m here to help you reframe that rejection!
For me, I started to see things in a new way.
I started to really, recognize that the Universe has my back and rejection is just protection and redirection to something so much better.
I think in romance. When I felt rejected from potential romantic partners, it had made me so sad. But, in hindsight, I see now that none of them were good enough for me… and if I hadn’t been rejected, I would’ve settled. And if I settled, I never would’ve been single and available to meet my actual true love, who exceeded all my expectations. So those romantic rejections actually helped me and were soooo for my highest good. I see now those who rejected me, never, ever would’ve been good enough partners or would’ve loved me with all their hearts, like I deserved. The Universe was doing me a huge favor by getting me away from them! (I think of Taylor Swift’s song Invisible String where she says a string pulled her “out of all the wrong arms” and into the right one).
I graduated college in 2013 when the job market was terrible so I’ve gotten rejected from so many jobs (both ones where I did have an interview and ones where I never got the chance. The ones where I had the interview actually probably hurt more) … but I see now, it’s because none of those jobs were meant for me. They weren’t aligned for my soul. They probably would’ve caused me more stress and misery, or would’ve led me down a very different path. Who knows where I’d be if I didn’t get rejected from them. Not to mention, getting rejected from enough jobs, made me find and accept a job that wound up being the one my true love had been working at (allowing us to meet!), and then that job being so terrible gave me my enough is enough moment to finally start my spiritual business (this one!).
I’ve been dreaming of being a published author since I was a teenager, so I’ve gotten my work rejected by sooooo many literary agents. Like sooo many. But, I previously submitted works of fiction as I wanted to be a fiction writer. Now, I’ve realized I love writing non-fiction( my spiritual uplifting books!) and that’s what I’m supposed to do…and maybe that discovery wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t gotten constantly rejected as a fiction writer. It doesn’t mean my work wasn’t good enough, it just meant the Universe had bigger and better plans that were more aligned to my soul.
Rejection is, unfortunately, a natural part of life we all experience. But keep reminding yourself the Universe is on your side. It wants to see you win! It always has your best interest in heart, even if it doesn’t seem like it.
What I like to do now is completely reframe rejection. When I get rejected from something now no matter what it is, I try to celebrate. I get excited and I thank the Universe for having my back. I see it as one option being eliminated and me being one step closer to figuring out the right path / right option.
I thank the Universe for protecting me from what’s not for my highest good … because remember what’s meant to be will always be…. So if it’s not being, it means it’s not meant for you… and if it’s something you really want (like being published!) then know by being rejected one way, it means there’s a better, more aligned path to get there for you!
Plus, by thanking the Universe for rejections, it shows you really, really trust the Universe - which the Universe totally vibes with! This helps you become even more in alignment and may even help what you want to manifest even faster.
So if you get rejected in romance, obviously process your feelings and allow yourself to feel anything you need to, but then remind yourself, it’s a sign that the Universe has someone way better for you! And the fact that it got you away from this person means the Universe has your back and it’s going to come through with something amazing; something you deserve.
If you get rejected from a job, get excited. Maybe the Universe just saved you from a miserable workplace! Maybe it saved you from a terrible commute or low pay. Feel relieved and know all it means is there’s a better job for you!
Remember, you are always inherently worthy. Other people’s opinions over you mean nothing about you. A job or person or whatever rejected you says absolutely nothing about you. It is no reflection of your worth, your talent, your attractiveness, your lovability, your capableness. Nothing. Because you are already all of those things. You are so worthy, so talented, so cute and lovable, you are so capable. You are uniquely you and that’s exactly what makes you so absolutely incredible.
And no one can ever take that away from you!
So reframe rejection in your mind! If it happens, just remind yourself, and maybe even celebrate, that the Universe is saying “you deserve better than this and I’m going to bring it to you! Just hold on a little longer, it’s coming!” <3
