We’ve all been there. Stages of our lives where it just seems like things aren’t really happening for us. Sometimes things are going not the way we envisioned, or sometimes it seems like nothing is happening at all - no progress, just kind of a limbo.
So, how do we pull ourselves out of these “funks” of feeling defeat, maybe even losing lack of faith, or feeling like it’s possible for everyone else and it’s never going to happen for us?
I totally feel this and have had segments of my life where I feel exactly that way … but, those moments were actually massive lessons for me. Those moments helped me learn how to cope with those moments, how to continue having hope, and to understand the way the Universe really works.
Spiritual teaching often simplifies manifesting so much where it causes a lot of us to believe that we just think it, feel it, believe it and it’ll happen … and when it doesn’t we feel bad or like it works for everyone but us or we did something wrong. But lots of times there’s so many other factors affecting it, delaying it, or changing our course.
On that topic, I have another relevant blog post about why your manifestations aren’t working and how to fix that!
But here, in this post today, I want to talk about not how to fix your manifestations that aren’t working (since I did that in a previous post!) I want to talk about the mindset to have when things feel to not be working. What you can say to yourself, what little pep talks to give yourself, or just what to keep in mind as you go throughout this phase of your life.
Now of course, we’re all different. This upcoming list are all thoughts that have helped me personally. Some of these may be helpful to you, some may not be. Just how some people find “everything happens for a reason” triggering and annoying, others find it incredibly helpful and calming. It doesn’t mean a phrase is right or wrong, it’s just personal preference.
So again, as you go through this list just analyze how each things make you personally feel. Take what feels good, and forget what doesn’t.
Life is Cyclic. We often expect life to be all up’s and happy’s and good’s and I really wish they were, but unfortunately they’re not. You could be doing absolutely everything right with your mindset and gratitude, but sometimes you’re just going to have moments of being down. And that’s okay! Just as the seasons change, we too have internal seasons. Things may be hard or flat now, but it won’t always be that way. Just as winter doesn’t last forever (although sometimes it seems like it!), Spring always blooms, and we always have fun in the summer!
Law of Polarity. Think of a rollercoaster, it’d be so boring if it was flat (I guess it’d just be a train ride!) We come here to experience the polarity of life, the up’s and down’s. And often by getting what we don’t want, it’s to help us gain clarity on what we do want. Sometimes our downs are exactly what we need to encourage us to make change, to push us to stand up for ourselves, to push us to stand up for others! They make us stronger and wiser, so we don’t repeat. Whatever it is; know that your downs are playing a purpose in the lessons you’re learning here on Earth and are absolutely going to help you (or someone else!) down the line. For example: Maybe you experiencing a terrible heartbreak not only helps you learn what you don’t want in a relationship going forward, but it also helps you give amazing advice to a friend a few years later going through a similar situation; and you can help her not be as hurt as you once were!
PATIENCE! Putting this in all caps because this one even my fire-heavy natal chart needs to super embody. Patience is sooooooo key. Divine Timing (things happening in the moment they’re meant to) really is everything. You just need to drill into your head the Universe has a plan. It hears your desires; it’s not being mean; it’s not holding out on you. It’s setting the stage so it can happen in the best way possible! So just hold on. Embody patience. Embody calmness. Try to develop a deep sense of trust. I always say just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it never will. Repeat and remind yourself of that! Think of something even that you felt like took forever to come, but then eventually did come and it was better than you ever expected!
For myself, I think of my love life. It felt like it was taking forever, but now I’m already at a point where I’ve known my true love for over 6 years! I also can clearly see that if we met any sooner, the timing wouldn’t have been as smooth. Example, he’s three years older than me, if we met in high school or college I would’ve been so intimidated because there’s a big difference between a senior and a freshmen! And once we were both out of the schooling world, I won’t say who but one of us was in a not great relationship, so that would’ve been very problematic. But, that person finally got out of that bad relationship 10 months before we met, giving them more time to heal. Plus, we met at the best way possible - at work; so we were forced to see each other everyday, we were able to develop naturally as friends in a non-romantic pressure environment, and as we became friends, we literally transformed into best friends, and that led us to fall in love and start dating 2 years after us meeting each other (at which point we knew each other sooooo well so it wasn’t scary at all). In hindsight, while I wanted to meet the love of my life from like age 12 onwards, I now see that meeting him at 25 and starting to date just before I turned 27 was actually the best timing possible.
Everything does happen for a reason! I know this one can be controversial, like I said earlier, people either love this phrase or hate it. I personally find it comforting because I pair it with the thought of rejection is protection and also re-direction to something better! Not getting that job, that relationship not working out, not getting that house, not getting the opportunity - you truly never know what you’re being saved from. Maybe that job you desperately wanted would’ve been a nightmare and made you hate life again. That person you wanted to date? Probably would’ve been so out of alignment for you. The opportunity you thought was yours? Just means there’s a better one coming along, and had you gotten that opportunity you wouldn’t be available for the better one. The Universe truly has your back. It’s always looking out for your highest good. When you don’t get something or it’s not happening, see it as a sign that it wasn’t good for you at the moment. It may be better down the line, but for now, it’s a no. It also may re-direct you! Maybe being constantly rejected from jobs caused you to reanalyze and maybe you realize you don’t really want those jobs because you don’t really want to work in that field, and maybe it’s your excuse to finally take a leap of faith and go after the career you actually want. You just never never know. So keep an open mind and again drill into your head that not getting what you want is often a blessing. The Universe knows better than us. Another phrase I always say: we just see the road directly ahead of us, but the Universe sees the entire map. It sees the twists and turns, the roadblocks, the traffics, the hidden routes, the better routes. It knows the way to direct us. So, surrender, release and let it.
Also maybe this “funk” you’re in is popping up because there’s somethings you need to let go of. Lots of times old wounds or triggers pop up because it’s our higher self nudging us to finally release them. Maybe this is your calling to seek some help … in my down times, I always turn to other psychics that I trust! I’ve actually even been working for most of this year to go into the Akashic Records to help heal things from my past lives and re-write subconscious programming. You can also give yourself readings. In my late teens when I really didn’t have the money to pay others to help me, I’d turn to my own oracle cards and seeking advice from the Angels. Not only did it help me, but it also gave me lots of practice and made me even more connected to the Angels and their wisdom. Anyway, use these lulls to really work on yourself! Use it to push you and fuel you to make some changes. Journal or get readings or really dive into your mindset. Identify any limiting beliefs holding you back, see where you’re still holding onto not trusting or not believing you are worthy enough. Figure out what pain of the past you’re still holding onto and work to clear it all out. Once you let it go, you’ll create space, and the Universe loves a void; it loves to fill space! And again, it’ll fill it up with something better!
Find your happiness. Again, I know the thought of “choose happiness” can either be empowering or triggering. Those with serious mental health issues will struggle with just choosing so of course that should be acknowledged, and talking it out or seeking professional help can definitely help with those struggles. But on the other side, if you’re not struggling from serious mental health issues, but you’re having some down days as we all do, reminding yourself to create your own happiness can be really empowering. Remember this is your life. No one or no thing can ever take that away from you. You decide what you want your life to be! So go forward and choose to bring more joy into your life. While it may be hard to make some of the big things happen just yet (patience again of course!). Choose little bits of joy! Watch your comfort movies. Make a point to hangout regularly with positive friends. Go to uplifting spiritual classes that will boost your mood. Dance. Play. Draw. Exercise. Write. Play Video Games. Go to a concert. Go shopping. Get ice cream or your favorite food. Drink warm tea. Play with your pets. Wrap yourself in a giant blanket like a burrito. Literally whatever makes you happy; do more of that. Make time for self-care! Even if you have no time, everyone can find ways to integrate even 5 minutes of something that makes them smile into your day. The more you can integrate these little things, the more lasting effect it’ll have and help you align to calling in the bigger things!
Be proud of yourself. Sometimes what gets us down is that we feel we haven’t done enough or we feel like we’re behind. We so often focus on what we have yet to achieve that we forget to acknowledge just how far we’ve come. But the truth is, I guarantee you have accomplished way more than you give yourself credit for! Make a point to write down, create a list, of some things you’ve achieved. These can be seemingly big things like you got your Master’s degree, or it can be seemingly small things like you’ve been a great friend or you stuck to your exercise routine for a whole year! Whatever it is, see that you’ve done sooooo much already! Your whole life has been filled with achieving things. Celebrate yourself, be proud of yourself… and know it’s only a matter of time before the things you’re yearning to achieve now will appear on your list.
Focus on gratitude for what you already have. Again, and I know I’m often guilty of this, we focus more on what we don’t already yet have… but via Law of Attraction all that does is create more of not yet having the thing. Actively try to shift your mindset and focus on the blessings you already have. People often think that if they focus so much on being excited for and grateful for what they have, the Universe won’t bring them more, but that’s so not the case. It’s not about the things, it’s about the frequency. If you’re vibing on a frequency of gratitude; you’re going to attract more things to be grateful for. A great practice is to go on a gratitude spree and see that, even though things may not be going your way, when you really hone into it… things may actually be better than you think! If you have at least one person who cares about you, if you have a place to sleep, if you have enough food, those are all pretty amazing things to be grateful for. Radiate gratitude and it really helps turn your mood around.
Surround yourself with empowering content! I personally find that listening to a self-help audiobook or podcast, or watching an uplifting speaker on YouTube, or reading a physical book, or reading blogs like this! whatever it is can really, really help turn my mood around. There’s something super empowering about hearing someone remind you, you can do this and it will come together one day!
Again, just know it won’t always be this way. Soon enough, everything you’re dreaming of (and more) will come to you. Just be patient in this season, work through it in all the ways you can. Know that the Universe absolutely 100% has your back. You didn’t come here to fail or to be continually disappointed. It’s all never, ever too late! It’s never too late for anything. Anything can happen at anytime. You never know what everyday has in store for you. For all you know, tomorrow could be the day it finally happens! You may always be closer than you think.
Above all, know that you are worthy. You are good enough. If you see someone else living what you want, all it means is that it’s possible for you, too! The Universe is literally showing you it’s possible for you! Release any doubt, any fears , any worry. Be patient with yourself because it may take time to release all this and really believe it. But the more you try, the more it’ll become natural. You can do it. You can do anything… and again, it’s only a matter of time before you’re out of this limbo and thriving! It’s possible for you to thrive. It’s possible for good, amazing things to happen to you. It’s possible for you to win. It’s all going to come together. I. Work through this hard time, know you are strong enough to get through this. It will all be okay. You will get your happily ever after. <3
