As someone who posts affirmations nearly everyday to their story, I often get asked: “how do you create affirmations?”
& it’s actually pretty simple!
I always advise: Just say what you wish to be true!
Say you wish to experience wealth or health or to feel confident, then just say “I am wealthy” “I am healthy” or “I am confident!”
Super straightforward! However here are some extra tips to make your self-created affirmations the most magnetic … plus some advice on what to do if you’re having trouble believing your affirmations!
So firstly, why are affirmations effective?
Everything in this Universe is energy. Every thought, every word, every object, every plant, every animal, even you yourself are energy!
This is often where “magic spells” originated from, because our words hold an energetic frequency and when we speak them into existence, we’re putting out the energy of whatever we’re saying, and via the laws of the Universe, which is always responding to your energy, it’s going to come right back to you.
Now, of course, some people think that’s not true because they say “I have a million dollars!” And are not a millionaire. Well, the only reason you’re not experiencing what you’re speaking is because:
You have a subconscious limiting belief deep down that is energetically contradicting the statement you’re saying thus blocking it from happening
You yourself don’t really believe what you’re saying is possible for you (again probably from societal or subconscious programming)
It’s not time yet
The Universe has something better for you
If you’re struggling with these, you can check out my previous blog post on why your manifestations aren’t happening and how to fix that!
Anyway, affirmations can actually be a great way to help you believe what you want to experience / what you want to be is possible for you! Our brain likes repetition, and whatever story you’re primarily feeding it, is the one it’s going to engrain into your subconscious mind. So, by affirming what you want over and over again, it becomes more natural to your subconscious mind. And when it becomes more natural to your subconscious mind, it melts away those old limiting stories, replaces them with these new stories / affirmations, and helps you more easily able to manifest them into your reality.
So firstly, make sure you are always phrasing your affirmations in the positive state.
The Universe actually only operates in the positive state, which means the Universe doesn’t hear words like “not” “Don’t” “can’t” “no” … it only hears the words that follows them.
For example: If you’re saying: I don’t want to be late.
The Universe doesn’t register the “I don’t…” and instead just focuses on the “be late!”
If you’re saying: “I am not in debt!” To affirm you’re debt-free, the Universe just hears “debt” and will bring you more of that.
The Universe is always ready to give you what you want; it’s always responding to you, so learning how to phrase what you want in the best way possible is crucial!
Be as specific as possible. One silly example of this is years and years ago I wanted to run into one of my favorite athletes, so I was affirming that I’d meet him, but I only phrased it as his last name, not his first name…and I literally wound up running into and meeting his father! LOL. Technically I got what I asked for; I just hadn’t been as specific enough. So BE specific!
Only talk about what you want, not what you don’t want.
If you want to be stress-free, focus on peace, on calm, on serenity.
If you want to stop making a low salary, focus on making that high salary.
If you’re feeling frustrated that there’s no one good to date, focus on other couples who clearly found someone good to date, which shows it’s possible for you, too!
If you don’t want to miss your flight, focus on making it. Focus on being on time.
Every desire is really two desires - wanting it and not wanting it. So, always make sure you are shifting to the positive side.
Now, of course this isn’t bypassing your feelings at all, like some people claim it to be. Some people misinterpret positive thinking as you’re not allowed to ever think of the bad - which is so untrue.
You’re human, you’re going to have bad thoughts … so when you do, feel them! If you have down days, fully feel every emotion, let it all out, cry, scream into your pillow, write a list of your frustrations then (Safely) burn it or tear it up. Process all of your emotions - because every side of you is valid.
But when you feel better and feel like you’ve processed enough of the down stuff, that’s when you can actively choose to shift to the good.
If you also find yourself constantly worrying about what goes wrong despite releasing, then that’s when I personally just like to talk it out with myself.
Talk to yourself, and when a fear or bad thought pops up, ask yourself: “well, why do we think that?” “Is there any evidence that that’s going to happen?” “Well, what if this time it works out?” “What if it goes the way we want?” “Has anything else ever worked out before? So if that can why can’t this?” “How would we feel if it worked out?”
Talk yourself through it. Get yourself to a point where you have honored your anxieties, but you’re showing them they’re just that - anxieties and not truths.
Sometimes you can even overpower your brain, if you’re in a good enough emotional state first of course. When you start to find yourself worrying about the bad, for example “oh noooo I am just drowning in debt!” imagine cancelling that thought, and instead step into your power and be like no, “I am wealthy. My credit card is paid off! I have more than enough money. I am so grateful for money. It is always flowing to me.” And start to replace that as your dominant vibe.
If you find yourself looking in the mirror and saying bad things about yourself, that’s a great moment to overpower your brain, feel the confidence surging through you, and be like: no, “I am beautiful. I feel great. I love myself. I love my body. I am amazing.”
For me personally, just overpowering has really helped me. I understand everyone is different though… and so then the question is: what if while doing your affirmations you struggle to actually believe it? What if straight up saying something: “I am beautiful” or “I am wealthy” feels wrong to you no matter how many times you say it?
In that case, you can adjust your affirmation a bit to be: “I am choosing to believe I am beautiful.” Or “I am the type of person who sees themself as beautiful.” “I am choosing to believe wealth is possible for me.” “I am the type of person who feels good about money!”
Making these shifts in the beginning can help you better ease into the affirmations. Because it’s true you do want to choose to believe and you do want to be the type of person who does that, so that can make it feel a bit lighter and better than just straight up saying it.
The more regularly you do this, it should eventually ease you into feeling good about straight up saying it! And if not, no rush, take you time, keep going with the “I am choosing to believe” and maybe try to dig a bit deeper into your subconscious beliefs and figure out why you’re struggling to feel good about this affirmation. (Maybe it’s limiting beliefs you received as a child, or from a past life, or just something that you can work on clearing out to feel good about it now!)
Find a method that feels good to you! Some people love to write their affirmations once daily, some people love to write them multiple times a day, some love to do it once a week, or at the start of every month, or on the Full moon. Some love to state their affirmations while standing in a power pose and looking in the mirror. Some love to say them in their head throughout the day. Some love to say them in their head while they’re getting ready. Some like to light a candle and state them! Some like to listen to music while they say them out loud. No way is better than the other, no way is right or more effective, it’s all a matter of personal preference. Try out different ways and see what way instinctively feels right to you!
Again, when crafting your affirmation “I am” is a great start, because it’s super powerful, whatever you say after it becomes your truth.
And then just state all the things you wish to be!
You can make it short and simple like I am capable, I am confident, I am calm, I am worthy, I am amazing, I am grateful, I am blessed. Etc.
Or you can make it more detailed like:
I am open and aligned to all the amazing opportunities that are aligned to my highest good.
I am a magical, magnetic being who is capable of manifesting their biggest dreams.
I am on the right path now and always.
Whatever it Is you want to have / be / do / experience, state it, and affirm it as your truth…. And so it shall be! <3
